Today, I want to give my opinion about how to start planning a wedding! As some of you may know, I studied finance at the University of Washington in Seattle and I especially LOVE talking about personal finances! I know money can be a taboo topic, but when it’s one of the most common reasons for divorce, I think it’s worth talking about. For backstory, Michael and I planned our wedding while we were both still in school full time and each worked two jobs to pay for our small wedding. You’ve probably already caught on that this wedding planning starting point is going to be about finances. Stay with me on this!
If you and your partner haven’t started talking about money, then this is where you need to start. This talk should be more than the typical “is this person a saver or a spender?” and “how much income do you bring in?” I recommend asking questions like this:
I could honestly go on forever with these sorts of questions. Not everyone was raised to have these conversations, so be patient if your partner initially reacts poorly to these questions.
One mistake that Wedding Wire observed about couples budgeting for their wedding is that almost 80% of couples underestimated their budget because they put together their budget BEFORE looking up the average cost of vendors and other expenses. They also observed that “on average, couples expect to pay $16,000, but end up spending roughly $29,000 on their wedding.” I’ll be honest and admit that I put together our initial budget without looking into vendors because vendor searching is exhausting to me.
With all of this being said, I recommend building your wedding budget by doing these steps:
If you’re looking at your monthly income and expenses and thinking to yourself “there’s no way we can afford $XXX a month for a wedding,” then don’t fret! This is not the time to start thinking about what you can take out of the budget.
The reason I suggest starting your wedding planning process with finances is because it’s a lot less stressful to have a clear plan from the start. If you can’t realistically save enough in a shorter amount of time, then push your wedding date out. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying this short life stage of being engaged. Soak it in as long as possible!
My biggest suggestions come from my own experience. Once you and your partner start talking about your intentions for marriage, start saving for your wedding! Yes, before you’re even engaged. Don’t overcomplicate it, either. Open a joint savings account and each of you put in equal amounts every month. Worst case scenario, you two split up and have to split up what you’ve saved. My other suggestion if you absolutely CANNOT wait to get married on a specific date is to get a part-time job to bring in extra income.
Michael and I started saving for our wedding about 6 months before we even got engaged and picked up second jobs to save faster. We planned our wedding in 12 short months because we wanted my sick grandmother to be able to come. She ended up passing away a month before our wedding, but we still don’t regret planning our wedding in those 12 short months.
Money and budgeting shouldn’t have to be complicated. To make it even easier, I’ve put together a very simple EXCEL spreadsheet that you’re more than welcome to use as a starting point. The workbook has two sheets: one for estimating your wedding budget and another for seeing how that wedding savings affects your monthly household budget. You will need to input your estimated and budgeted wedding expenses AND your fixed and living expenses as a couple/household.
I hope this helps answer the question of how to start planning a wedding and please feel free to ask any questions in the comments below!
<3 Stormy
Sources:
20 Most Common Resources for Divorce | Marriage.com
Average Cost of a Wedding | Value Penguin
2019 Newlywed Report | Wedding Wire
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